Just like the veil gets lifted to reveal the bride, here Alicia reveals a few things that nobody ever tells you when planning your wedding! As a wedding planning friend, she wanted to give an insight into all the things you may not be fully aware of when that beautiful ring lands on your finger.
From the fears, tears, to what to do with yourself once the special day has come to an end, here are the ten things nobody ever tells you when planning your wedding.
Alicia is a list-loving, fizz-drinking romantic with a genuine passion for creating the most special memories for everyone. As a natural planner and host, she truly cares about everything you want to create and is there to help you, every single step of the way. Alicia wants to design the day of your dreams, as though it is her very own. Not only as your planner but as your friend.
It is possible to plan too early
Coming from a crazy planning person, this almost feels a little unnatural to say, BUT, you can actually start to plan too early.
Let’s think about it for a second, each beautiful wedding season brings about new details, decor, and designs especially in the days of Pinterest and Instagram, you can find yourself getting more and more confused with your overall aesthetic.
If you start to plan too early, you may feel disappointed with your original choices – not only that, most venues and suppliers will only have their diaries open for a certain period of time, and without a date set in stone, you may not be able to confirm all the pieces of your wedding puzzle.
Contracts are gospel
Just as actions speak louder than words! You can’t take a supplier’s word as gospel without having (& reading) their contract word for word.
It may sound a little less exciting than choosing pretty florals, but really, without your contracts, the flowers may not even have a place to go!
Just make sure you know what you’re signing and paying for before putting pen to paper and sending over your money.
Abundance of advice may be overwhelming
Ok, this one is a tricky one! But truly, once that ring is on your finger, brace yourself for a multitude of advice and opinions from pretty much everyone.
From texts, phone calls, conversations in person, you’ll have people telling you what you should and shouldn’t do.
My biggest tip is to stick with your gut instinct, it’s yours and your partner’s special day, nobody else’s you have to do what you both want and what means the most to you and only you!
Be prepared to shake the money tree
This one may or may not surprise you but, weddings are expensive.
There are hidden fees, everywhere, so keep your eyes peeled and make sure you’re taking them into consideration! This is why reading the fine print in your contract is vital.
Did you know there’s a fee to cut your wedding cake?!
I would suggest always adding a little extra to everything you book, or even having a set percentage of your budget held aside for things that may just creep in at the very end!
The nightmares aren’t real
Even as a planner, in the days and weeks leading up to the very special day, dreams slowly start to become a lot more ‘imaginative’ shall we say…
You will most likely have nightmares that you have forgotten something super important, or that you walk down the aisle wearing your dress back to front, but truly, you have got this! They aren’t real!!
& you need your beauty sleep and lots of rest in the lead-up, so clear your mind and take a breath, it’s going to be amazing!
You’ll shed a good few tears
One that most definitely doesn’t come as a surprise to me (I’m a very emotional person!!), but maybe will do for some…
You will find yourself crying ALOT. At the good, the bad, and everything in between! But guess what, it’s only because you care and it is all good to let it out.
Happy tears are all for lovely memories, and the sad ones are just letting out any tension, don’t fight it, just have lots of tissues at the ready!
It’s only as stressful as you make it
The biggest tip I can offer for this one is to try and break things down.
Don’t overwhelm yourself with a huge list of huge tasks, that would be stressful for anyone! Take it all in small chunks and make it nice for yourself, small steps always add up to big progress.
& maybe throw in a few treats here and there when you tick off the big things that you may have been avoiding!
You may make mistakes
A little heated chat with your maid of honor when planning, a change in heart leading to a last-minute supplier swap out, inviting a guest you didn’t really want there, whatever it may be, I can assure you, you most likely will make a mistake, maybe even more than one…
But guess what…
It will not matter in the end! Relax, take it all in and enjoy every single moment!
You may not remember every moment
Well, thid may not come as too much as a surprise, but I’m bringing it up to really really highlight how speedy the day really does zip by.
I’m sure, you’ve heard it time and time again but your wedding day will fly by. Most don’t really believe it until it actually happens. When it comes down to it, there is SO much packed into your special day and it all becomes a blur and blends together.
The best thing I can say is to take a couple of minutes just for you and your partner, to try and take the special moments all in!
You won’t know what to do with yourself after the wedding
After months and months of planning, the days and weeks after your wedding may come as a bit of shock!
But you just have to remember, this is truly just the beginning, you have a lifetime of happiness, experiences, and growth together ahead.
If you can, maybe even book something, no matter how big or small, for your first wedding anniversary so you already have something in the future to look forward to and celebrate!
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